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Four Ways to Make Kindness a Habit

Acts of kindness have an inspiring and humanizing effect because they powerfully remind us that people are capable of goodness, mercy, generosity, and service. Too many of us however, limit kindness, waiting for a major crisis such as a death, a divorce, a life-threatening illness, or a job loss. Yet, every day of the year provides us with ample opportunities to be kind. Here are four suggestions for making kindness a daily habit:

  • Make kindness a priority in your life

Commit yourself to act kindly and to speak kindly. Let these words from Scripture shape your daily life: “As Gods’ chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”

  • Avoid the two D’s of inaction

Don’t delay or deny an opportunity to be kind. Act kindly whenever possible, as soon as possible.

  • Be kind to an enemy

If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. Most of us can find ways to be kind to family members, friends, neighbors, colleagues, and even strangers. Perhaps the greatest test of our kindness is whether or not we can be kind to those who have hurt us by their words or deeds.

  • Turn your pain into another’s gain

The sad experiences in our lives should make us better, not bitter, people. Let your pain motivate you to treat others more compassionately. Remember that someone needs your kindness today. It may be a child who needs a word of encouragement, a spouse who needs your praise, a stranger who needs the cheer of your smile, or a work colleague who needs you to listen and understand. The opportunities for daily kindness are as close as the air you breathe.

Healthy Words

“Personal communication through letters and cards stimulates better all around health in the receiver.”

Why do we place so much importance in receiving mail? Unlike so much of mass communication today, it is personal, like two people meeting. Also, there is its uniqueness. Another individual has crafted words just for you. To you as the receiver it is reader-friendly: you can read it anytime you choose and as often as you want.

There is also considerable importance for the sender as well. A handwritten note is a sure means of saying personally, “I’m thinking of you.” Your written words are an expression of your thoughts and display your unique personality. And it is sender-friendly, allowing you to communicate when you’re ready.

Current research is revealing what we letter likers have known all along personal communication through letters and cards stimulates better all-around health in the receiver.

With a little practice and determination you’ll do a fabulous job. Here are a few pointers to follow:

  • Carry stamped pre-addressed postcards or stationery in your pocket or purse.
  • Obtain picture postcards you feel others will enjoy.
  • Write messages for a spouse or friend while waiting in traffic, at a bank drive-up window, or white at a doctor’s or dentist’s office and while riding a bus, train, or plane,
  • Make your own cards by using stickers, rubber stamps, and color marking pens. Paste clipped magazine pictures, cartoons, printed jokes, proverbs, quotes, or colorful cloth to the backside.
  • Express your thanks for the recipient, what they’ve done, and why they’re important to you and others.
  • Personalize envelops by enclosing small items such as a flower, packet of sugar, leaf, matchbook cover, or photograph.
  • Show appreciation for your relationship as a friend or loved one.
  • Suggest something they can anticipate, such as the two of you going out to lunch or to an event.
  • Include an appropriate Bible verse.
  • Tell what you’re been doing.
  • Explain the process of plans coming together.
  • Share a new bit of information of mutual interest.
  • Enclosing a self-addressed stamped card for the recipient to respond.
  • Sending a strip of stamps for then to use on their envelops.

Do you worry about whether what you’re sending is appreciated or accomplishing what you hope? The real test is to send to others what you would like to have them send to you. that way both you and the receiver will be mutually encouraged.

Ten Commandments on When to Keep Silent


1.  Keep silent as you enter church, so God can speak to you.

2.  Keep silent as you leave church, so the Holy Spirit can impress upon your memory the things you have heard.

3. Keep silent unless you have something to say worth saying.

4. Keep silent until it is your turn to talk.

5. Keep silent when you are tempted to criticize.

6. Keep silent when you have said enough.

7. Keep silent when you are tempted to gossip.

8. Keep silent when you are provoked

9. Keep silent when you are tempted to be irritable.

10.Keep silent long enough to think before you speak.